IF HE MAKES AN ABRUPT CHANGE OF PLANS: Changing plans once, I get. Twice is bad but I could understand. Anything else is just downright disrespectful. His actions are saying that you are not a priority, you’re an option and not the best choice at the moment. Say bye-bye!

IF HE’S M.I.A.(Missing In Action): Sure, they could be on a quick mission to Afghanistan to execute the world’s most feared terrorist, but chances are they’re not. Be leery of those who disappear for a few days, stop all communication, and then call suddenly. No thanks!

IF HE’S AGGRESSIVE: Is he pushing for sex on the second date? Asking you why he hasn’t met your parents, and its only date # 3?? Any behavior that is forceful, especially early on, will only progress in the future. Just say no!

IF HE’S UNCERTAIN: “I don’t know. What do you want to do?” If that becomes their most frequent line when preparing for a date, prepare for a life of boredom. This guy lacks spontaneity and creativity. He’s telling you that he only wants to follow your lead or simply has no motivation. Pass!

IF HE MAKES TOO MANY HOUSE CALLS: “Can I come over to your place?” is his version of date night. Inviting someone to your house early in the relationship (or going to his) is an overall bad move. Let it be known that your home is not conducive to dating…there’s a world of activities outside of it. Anytime someone continuously makes this request, it’s clear they’re not interested in a serious relationship. Peace homie!

HE MAKES FREQUENT MENTIONS OF PAST RELATIONSHIPS: Living in the past is extremely dangerous. If he can’t stop talking about how great the old flame was or how he enjoyed the things they did, chances are he still wishes he was in that moment. Do yourself (and him) a favor by letting him go to pursue her or to really prepare himself to be in a new relationship.

HE MAKES CONSTANT COMPARISONS: I’ll never forget what my wife told me the first time (and last time) I compared her to my momma. I said: I used to get a home-cooked meal every night. Her reply: perhaps you should move back in with her then! If you’re always being compared to someone else in their life, they haven’t yet fully appreciated your uniqueness. Later!

IF HE’S RUDE TO OTHERS: When you met, he was so polite. He even talked about how important it is to treat others the way you would want to be treated. But, it’s your third date and the waiter forgot the extra lemon wedges… before the waiter is out of earshot, he shouts “Stupid Motha F…” Hmmm…Is that the way he would want to be treated? Next!